Don't be ignorant. I am in Canada and this guy is in California. I have never met him, have no link to him in any way, and just found this site like 3 days ago.
That's a very strange opinion you have. It isn't necessarily supposed to be helpful, but rather truthful. How many people are comfortable asking someone on the street for complete honesty? Very few. The ones who are, are not the target market for this service.
To me, his bio says "I am a pretty average guy, with above average intelligence. I am the guy you are trying to impress at the bar, I am your bro who never invites you to the gym, I am in the front row of your concert."
That's the most important thing. It's private. Also, redditors tend to tell others they are the most beautiful unique flower in the world, when everyone else sees a hideous ogre. This is why a service like this is so much better.
He isn't trying to suggest this is a service which everyone will find useful or interesting. It actually takes a lot of honesty with yourself to even understand why you might need this service. Thousands of people every day make decisions on their own, or on the advice of others, which are badly informed decisions. This guy could help them.
For $10, he isn't going to send you a 5 word email and ignore you forever. He is going to have a reasonable dialogue pertaining to your question/concern. If you say "No bro, I am not looking to score" he will ask "OK, well what are your intentions? What is your actual concern with your outfit?"
> If you say "No bro, I am not looking to score" he will ask "OK, well what are your intentions? What is your actual concern with your outfit?"
RainSunshine, you registered at HN today and have posted only on this post and nowhere else, speaking with high confidence about how a random person on the Internet will respond to specific example questions.
I have no objections to RainSunshine's commentary, it's actually quite valuable in the context. I just believe that whatever link they have to the site should be clearly disclosed, if such exists.
I have none. His website looks nice, his business model is sound, and people are talking crap about it simply because they don't personally see a need for it. I felt like defending that.
That was part of my point -- I personally don't have any real overlap with his life context (and I do have people who can discuss my flaws with me, with enough honesty that it's not always comfortable).
But there are people who could seek him out as someone a bit further along than they are, on a similar path, plus some market for people who'll try it for fun.
I think you run some very good points. For me, I agree. I have very few people in my life, but the ones that are happen to be great at notifying me of the things that I do that aren't good.
I'd wager that there a lot of people out there that ultimately do not have such friendships. A lot of people have poor self-esteem and surround themselves with crappy, dishonest, alike people. The idea here is that some of those exact people will have just the amount self-actualization that you need to email this guy. Hopefully this guy is willing and ready to meet these people more than half way and do his best to empathize.
I realize that I just issued a lot of insults to a group of people I explicitly said I do not belong to. Self-acceptance is a great thing to encourage and facilitate though. I wonder if that's this guy's intention...
