I think you are too self-centered as of now. You need to de-focus.
To do that, the best advice I can give you is Travel (obviously once the corona thing is taken care of). Travel a lot and do travel on shoestring budget. This gives you the opportunity to meet new people, new geographies and help you cultivate new ideas and slowly form a picture of your life on your own.
This also helps you in start to focus on others instead of your own self at all times.
Interesting, I hadn't considered that. Indeed, I haven't traveled a lot in my life, mostly because my parents are let's just say not that well off. Indeed, if I can, I'll try to do that after the COVID-19 pandemic is over, if, of course, I find the money necessary to do that somehow.
Focus the conversations around your experience being an EM in your current role. Do NOT expect that you should know (or should have experienced) certain things because you are a manager in your current role...just accept candidly what you have experienced and what you haven't.
"giving them some sort of responsibility to complete those tasks"
1) Why do you have to give this on a daily basis? Assuming everyone in your team is dedicated and responsible, then why.
2) asking for help and advice should not wait for the next standup. If someone is stuck, they should reach out for help right away than waiting for next standup.
We assign the tasks to ourselves. I meant it more as "this is what I'm going to get done today". If I don't get it done then I'll have to bring it up tomorrow and give an explanation of why, maybe I'm having problems that someone else might have solved but I do not know that, maybe its a large project and I just need more time, I'll still have to mention it. But it gives the other members insight into what, why, and how the task I am working on is going or if someone needs additional help.
And to your next point, we certainly do NOT wait till tomorrow, we reach out in our team chat if we need something and then can discuss further in person.
The stand up is not some strict rigid meeting where its the only time we talk. It is simply an additional small amount of time for the team to discuss whatever, along with what we're working on.
Another key point I did not mention above is the standup helps with those that struggling to speak publicly or just are not familiar with doing so, I have seen noticeable differences from members when we first started to now.
I'm not saying that the stand up is totally relevant and required, I'm sure we would work continue to work just the same without it, but it serves as a small interpersonal connection between members. For my team and I, the stand up works great, for other teams it doesn't.
If you really want to know, try it, or ask your team how they feel about it.
I think you're both right...A daily standup is absolutely a sign of "distrust", but I put it in quotes because it isn't as negative as usual distrust is, but I think technically that's an appropriate word.
Its a level of distrust which is natural, in the same way that you ask people for things you want from them, rather than just "trusting" that they'll know. Sure, they might, but it makes it much easier on everyone when a communication is made. A daily standup is just a central time and place to communicate so that the real meaningful form of trust doesn't get damaged because of a lack of communication/miscommunication.
Would love to speak to you about where your understanding is. Share what I know and see if we can add to each other's understanding. Hit me up on hangout, shail.narayan@gmail.com
If you need help, I can coach you for job interviews. I can say confidently that you will start clearing interviews a lot more often. I have been there and just would love to help you out of this situation.
Wonderful film that stands up to repeated viewings. I love the scene where Ellie gets the first hint of a signal and blasts across the desert in her T-bird shouting to her crew through the CB. An early Matthew McConaghy appearance where he hasn't yet succumbed to the inaudible muttering of later work. Contact is based on a Carl Sagan novel, which is also excellent.
To do that, the best advice I can give you is Travel (obviously once the corona thing is taken care of). Travel a lot and do travel on shoestring budget. This gives you the opportunity to meet new people, new geographies and help you cultivate new ideas and slowly form a picture of your life on your own.
This also helps you in start to focus on others instead of your own self at all times.