Im curious how having kids ruined peoples life, was your childless life full of rando sex and spending sprees? Do you miss being able to play video games all day and night? what do you think youre missing out on? Comedy clubs? A disciplined life with kids is unparalleled.
As much as I love Anki there is enormous friction in creating the cards, especially as a beginner. And you very easily get overfitting when you keep seeing the same question.
I benefit from "state changes"—shifting from sober periods to high periods and vice versa. These transitions seem to spur the most creativity for me. Each state causes me to think differently and notice things I didn't in the previous state. This applies to other substances as well. Its when I overstay my wecome in either state that things start to fall apart and stagnate.