I see a lot of people publicly quiting facebook, then quietly rejoining because... well that one person they know only communicates via messenger.
When I finally stopped using Facebook, I didn't close the account. It's just there. It's no longer part of what I do. At some point I realized that the worst thing about the network is not that they do shady things, or trick you into staying, or meddle with politics. The worst thing is the person you gradually become.
The moment you meet someone, you check their facebook, look through their pictures, browse their posts. When you become friends with someone, everytime there is tension you check facebook to see if they haven't posted about it. If it's a lover, you base the status of the relationship on their posts and frequency of pictures. If it's an ex...
In 2015 I wrote [1]:
> On facebook, why would I give someone privacy when I have access to all this information. And I don't even need their permission. I can watch your private pictures because you made them available. It's not that I can find out where you work, where you live, where you eat, everything about you. It's that I actually do find out without ever hiring a private detective. It's not what I can do, it's what I do!
I mean being raised with the attitude when you see the world, the world sees you makes the facebook thing just another venue for that same idea. There is an acceptable level of neglect for a facebook account. Just put up a nice photo of yourself and forget about it. Like myspace and friendster, ect. It's not clear what the value of facebook is to a 'customer'. It's basically a modern day newspaper, with classifieds and crossword puzzles, except your friends are now 50% of the news headlines. I never used to read newspapers either.
When I finally stopped using Facebook, I didn't close the account. It's just there. It's no longer part of what I do. At some point I realized that the worst thing about the network is not that they do shady things, or trick you into staying, or meddle with politics. The worst thing is the person you gradually become.
The moment you meet someone, you check their facebook, look through their pictures, browse their posts. When you become friends with someone, everytime there is tension you check facebook to see if they haven't posted about it. If it's a lover, you base the status of the relationship on their posts and frequency of pictures. If it's an ex...
In 2015 I wrote [1]:
> On facebook, why would I give someone privacy when I have access to all this information. And I don't even need their permission. I can watch your private pictures because you made them available. It's not that I can find out where you work, where you live, where you eat, everything about you. It's that I actually do find out without ever hiring a private detective. It's not what I can do, it's what I do!
Facebook turns you into an insecure person.
[1]: https://idiallo.com/blog/facebook-and-me