> Why would someone bring it up at every meeting? That's a pretty big straw man argument. I'm sure there are outliers that do that, but they are rare.

Note that I said that someone who constantly argue against gay rights is toxic, I have met people like that (not specifically gay, but about immigrants for example) and being around them is not fun.

> On the other hand, many gay folks are afraid to even mention their partner at all at work, even casually in the what that most people do.

In that case it is no longer political and they can complain that people targeted them for being gay.