You can't give them money and then put conditions on top of it. It's their business decision as to what they want to do with their monetary donations.
Otherwise, this would be like your employer saying, "I will pay you salary, buuut only if you promise not to spend it on alcohol". It clearly doesn't work like that, you just have to make a high level judgement if you agree with their values and if yes, go ahead with that donation.
Which is exactly what gspr is saying is the reason they don’t donate. If an org shows that they have no focus, then people won’t want to donate exactly because you can’t say what the money goes to.
Otherwise, this would be like your employer saying, "I will pay you salary, buuut only if you promise not to spend it on alcohol". It clearly doesn't work like that, you just have to make a high level judgement if you agree with their values and if yes, go ahead with that donation.