Apples and oranges. Funerals are for people who actually know the person that died. Everyone wailing here has never even met Jobs.
But even aside from that, RMS did not 'come to the funeral'. 'The funeral' 'came to him and asked him his opinion':
"Stallman made these comments on his personal site, rather than on the FSF site."
In your hypothetical, it's more like the funeral went to your mum's ex-boyfriend, known to be critical of her, while he was sitting at home, asked him for his opinion, then acted all offended when he answered as expected. The ex-boyfriend didn't leave his house to make the mourners unhappy, he just said his own thing in his own space.
But even aside from that, RMS did not 'come to the funeral'. 'The funeral' 'came to him and asked him his opinion':
"Stallman made these comments on his personal site, rather than on the FSF site."
In your hypothetical, it's more like the funeral went to your mum's ex-boyfriend, known to be critical of her, while he was sitting at home, asked him for his opinion, then acted all offended when he answered as expected. The ex-boyfriend didn't leave his house to make the mourners unhappy, he just said his own thing in his own space.