I think it's more like if you don't have a "partner", you can't afford to move to a big city like New York or DC, absent a technical degree that lets you have the equivalent of a dual income.
Then you have people who have more resources basically exploit that a year can be a long time.
Go back and listen to some Dan Savage calls from the twenty aughts. Both anarchists and democratic socialists seem to love that guy for some reason.
(Once I started having sex with girls too, and he couldn't seem to stop being weirdly transphobic, I stopped listening, though I appreciated being able to answer HIS question when he came to my university -- Danny boy definitely knows crypto means cryptography.)
Go back into the archives: when they're not being advised on how to produce the largest craps to literally poop on their partners (lots of lettuce apparently), they're often quite sociopathically[1] treating romance with this this weird attitude of "you told me the rules, and absent a just cause, you can't just dump (fire) me".
You can. Romance, like any other uh... "mutual association", is a form of at will employment, for lack of better phrasing.
In the real world, you can, in five seconds, go from first name basis to friends with one of the most powerful hackers in the world to "Mr" or "Ms" X even if you have a teaching certificate, doctorate or MD, because outside WORK folks don't really give a damn about your credentials - say the wrong thing, on the wrong day, you will be told to get in the ground with Jeffrey Epstein if you ever go out of your element that badly ever again and that hacker will never, ever help you again.
[1] There's a network of self identified sociopaths who've infiltrated the tech policy community BTW -- it's one of the reasons they closed that Russian embassy in Seattle, or so I heard in the hall at Defcon. Don't adopt a diagnosis like it's a Dalmatian born in the early 90s, it will end badly in both cases.
Then you have people who have more resources basically exploit that a year can be a long time.
Go back and listen to some Dan Savage calls from the twenty aughts. Both anarchists and democratic socialists seem to love that guy for some reason.
(Once I started having sex with girls too, and he couldn't seem to stop being weirdly transphobic, I stopped listening, though I appreciated being able to answer HIS question when he came to my university -- Danny boy definitely knows crypto means cryptography.)
Go back into the archives: when they're not being advised on how to produce the largest craps to literally poop on their partners (lots of lettuce apparently), they're often quite sociopathically[1] treating romance with this this weird attitude of "you told me the rules, and absent a just cause, you can't just dump (fire) me".
You can. Romance, like any other uh... "mutual association", is a form of at will employment, for lack of better phrasing.
In the real world, you can, in five seconds, go from first name basis to friends with one of the most powerful hackers in the world to "Mr" or "Ms" X even if you have a teaching certificate, doctorate or MD, because outside WORK folks don't really give a damn about your credentials - say the wrong thing, on the wrong day, you will be told to get in the ground with Jeffrey Epstein if you ever go out of your element that badly ever again and that hacker will never, ever help you again.
[1] There's a network of self identified sociopaths who've infiltrated the tech policy community BTW -- it's one of the reasons they closed that Russian embassy in Seattle, or so I heard in the hall at Defcon. Don't adopt a diagnosis like it's a Dalmatian born in the early 90s, it will end badly in both cases.