Without knowing anything about your specific situation, if you regularly find that you have bad relationships with your colleagues, then perhaps there is an opportunity for you to make a change somewhere in your own life? In my personal experience I haven't had too many problems with coworkers and on the rare occasion that I did, with hindsight I was at least partly responsible for the difficulties I encountered and perhaps initially blamed on others. Everyone has their own story and their own troubles, and while that is no reason to tolerate genuine abuse, a little understanding can go a long way in many other cases. Also it's important to recognise that no-one is perfect (cliché though that is) - usually people are doing their best, and we all make stupid mistakes.
Of course there are still slackers and people who want to take out their problems on others and there's not much you can do about that except perhaps develop other ways of dealing with such people, assuming you need to. Stoicism can be a useful mindset for situations like that.
Another thing to consider is your job hunting filter; perhaps you're not effectively excluding dysfunctional organisations?
I have worked for a company where I didn't get along with 95% of the people. And yet I worked fine with 99% of people in every other company I have ever worked for. So sometimes it actually isn't you that's the problem. Sometimes your personality simply doesn't fit the company culture.
By the way the company I didn't get along with was the worst performing one. They reported $ millions in losses every year and was constantly being reorganized and/or sold to some other company. One of those "let's spend 80% of our time in meetings" kind of places. I am so happy I don't work there anymore.
That does indeed sound awful, glad you got out. I think low morale can be infectious and once things have gone downhill far enough, the rot becomes self-sustaining. Very unpleasant.
Thanks and yes I think you are right. Unfortunately most people automatically starts to behave in a way that fits the culture. Even if the culture is toxic.
Of course there are still slackers and people who want to take out their problems on others and there's not much you can do about that except perhaps develop other ways of dealing with such people, assuming you need to. Stoicism can be a useful mindset for situations like that.
Another thing to consider is your job hunting filter; perhaps you're not effectively excluding dysfunctional organisations?