I find this kind of assumption that "coders can't understand feelings" as a harmful stereotype and baseless assumption just because many of the comments here disagree with your take. Emotional intelligence* has nothing to do with it; sympathy does. You can recognize the emotions of others without feeling sympathy for them. You think the author is sympathetic, others here (myself included)...don't.
*Emotional intelligence is the recognition of your emotions, the emotions of others, how your actions influence the emotions of others, and how to regulate your own emotions. Ironically, by this definition, the author is the one lacking emotional intelligence. They didn't understand why they were angry, why others were frustrated or how to mitigate it. They still don't understand that just saying that you are at peace doesn't mean that you are. To me, the author is still brimming with hurt, anger, jealousy, greed, and pride, and because of these last three, I don't have much sympathy.
*Emotional intelligence is the recognition of your emotions, the emotions of others, how your actions influence the emotions of others, and how to regulate your own emotions. Ironically, by this definition, the author is the one lacking emotional intelligence. They didn't understand why they were angry, why others were frustrated or how to mitigate it. They still don't understand that just saying that you are at peace doesn't mean that you are. To me, the author is still brimming with hurt, anger, jealousy, greed, and pride, and because of these last three, I don't have much sympathy.