It's usually not personal - having a professional detachment helps.
Remember the only way from amateur to professional is by constant improvement, which requires constant critique of your performance.
As you improve the criticism becomes less, you also have to rise above the amateurs who don't know how to adequately structure criticism, so that it written in a less personal way.
Early on in your career this may seem deliberate and you will make a lot of mistakes, but it does fade.
You should also have 2 tenets:
- It doesn't matter what happens, you are paid for the code regardless, so don't hold so much pride.
- Make sure your reviews of others hold them to the same standard and language so they feel what feedback like that does and helps them adapt (it's also revenge served cold if that's your thing).
Remember the only way from amateur to professional is by constant improvement, which requires constant critique of your performance.
As you improve the criticism becomes less, you also have to rise above the amateurs who don't know how to adequately structure criticism, so that it written in a less personal way. Early on in your career this may seem deliberate and you will make a lot of mistakes, but it does fade.
You should also have 2 tenets:
- It doesn't matter what happens, you are paid for the code regardless, so don't hold so much pride.
- Make sure your reviews of others hold them to the same standard and language so they feel what feedback like that does and helps them adapt (it's also revenge served cold if that's your thing).