When people criticize you, how do you feel? “Bad” is not an emotion, it helps to be more specific.
Do you feel the way you do way because you’re unhappy with your own performance and you wish it was better? Or because you’re unhappy with the other person’s unnecessary (or unkind) criticism of your innocent, honest mistake?
Or other reasons?
Often these kind of personal investigation questions can help. You may get clarity. Once you figure out clearly what’s there for you, try the same “why approach” on the other people involved, in your own head, without asking them. Why did they say what they said? and how did they feel at that moment? And why did they feel that?
If you find it hard to know a reason, try using your imagination.
Maybe there are insights that you will arrive via this process that will transform How are you see it, and that’ll help make everything seem better for you.
When people criticize you, how do you feel? “Bad” is not an emotion, it helps to be more specific.
Do you feel the way you do way because you’re unhappy with your own performance and you wish it was better? Or because you’re unhappy with the other person’s unnecessary (or unkind) criticism of your innocent, honest mistake?
Or other reasons?
Often these kind of personal investigation questions can help. You may get clarity. Once you figure out clearly what’s there for you, try the same “why approach” on the other people involved, in your own head, without asking them. Why did they say what they said? and how did they feel at that moment? And why did they feel that?
If you find it hard to know a reason, try using your imagination.
Maybe there are insights that you will arrive via this process that will transform How are you see it, and that’ll help make everything seem better for you.
I hope you figure it out and get some peace. :)