1) is the person honestly just trying to help make the codebase better?
2) is the person wording it in such a way that doesn’t insult you?
3) what is your preferred way they would’ve made their comment, if any at all? Is it reasonable for you to have that preference?
4) what are your thoughts when you receive good faith, non-insulting criticism, and why do you have those thoughts? What is the underlying emotion you’re feeling that’s triggering that kind of thinking? What are the justifications you have under those feelings & are they reasonable ones?
Breaking down why you react the way you do, and all the aspects of that interaction, will help a lot in figuring out how to feel less defensive over it.
1) is the person honestly just trying to help make the codebase better?
2) is the person wording it in such a way that doesn’t insult you?
3) what is your preferred way they would’ve made their comment, if any at all? Is it reasonable for you to have that preference?
4) what are your thoughts when you receive good faith, non-insulting criticism, and why do you have those thoughts? What is the underlying emotion you’re feeling that’s triggering that kind of thinking? What are the justifications you have under those feelings & are they reasonable ones?
Breaking down why you react the way you do, and all the aspects of that interaction, will help a lot in figuring out how to feel less defensive over it.