Am I my brothers keeper? Culturally, we've just bought into the notion that I'm not your therapist, so as to absolve myself of the responsibility of fixing broken people. But if I don't do it, who will? so I take care of myself first, so that I'm sable to take care of others, but when I encounter broken people, I still try to fix them (as if people are devices like microwave ovens that need fixing) , because we all have to live in a society and hurt people hurt people, so don't over extend yourself, but also do the work that's staring you in the face.

This is 10 hours later.

> Therein lies the crux of the issue. Everyone agrees that this person needs help, but also agrees that they shouldn't feel obligated to provide it.

This sentence will definitely seem targeted at you. However both the following are true:

1) You are not their keeper 2) Therein lies the crux of the issue

I would say your anecdote did its task brilliantly, it described a situation fairly, which presented reasonable expectations humans can have today.

The pros/cons of this current accommodation were then discovered.