There’s huge variation among individual humans. Large enough that, even if the peaks of an attribute distribution do not align between the sexes, there’s a lot of overlap.
And our personal interactions are, well, personal. They happen one-to-one or in groups that are very small relative to the population.
So it’s really useful to go into personal interactions with an open mind. It’s best to compartmentalize what you might know intellectually about population studies or observations in general from a distance, from what you expect when you meet someone. Humans are so complex that any person you meet could be an outlier in some way. Even though it might not appear that way at first.
> Beyond sexual desire, neither gender genuinely wants deep connection with the other.
People obviously want deep connections, that’s why it is so upsetting when they don’t have any. It is why you are posting on HN about it.
> As time goes on and females get mor and more independence, it’s going to look bleak for males.
Women have always had emotional independence. Using the law and power to force women into marriage and parenthood did not magically create love and connection. It did create tons of abuse, violence, sadness, and other human suffering. It is good for all people that this has been reduced by changing the laws.
> After reading papers, watching TikToks and just observing the real world, I believe males and females have little in common beyond reproduction and sexual attraction.
Maybe less TikToks and more interactions with other people would do you a lot of good. That would help with both your incorrect assumptions that men can't get emotional connection with other men and that men and women have little in common. Just saying.
That's a depressing take on the world and not grounded in reality. It sounds like the kind of thing that the FDS community on reddit (female version of Red Pill) would parrot in their echo chamber of narcissism and hatred.
If you want to make a real effort to understand humans and how the genders relate, expand your sources. A good starter:
> I've been intrigued by male disenfranchisement. After reading papers, watching TikToks and just observing the real world, I believe males and females have little in common beyond reproduction and sexual attraction
And you believe wrong. Do you not know anyone that has friends from the opposite gender? Isn't close with a sibling from the opposite gender? I personally know multiple, so I'd be interested in what "studies" you've read that made you come to that conclusion. TikTok isn't real world, and neither is either of our anecdata.
