I don't police, I merely judge based on usage.

I’m sorry you’re offended by people trying to be nice to others by avoiding language they don’t appreciate. I promise nobody is gonna force you to do the same.

I didn’t say I was offended, because I am not.

What I said is it is a sign of language policing, and that means a sign of the sort of people that like to deliberately misinterpret things so they get to be offended and virtue signal about the response. Normal people, unlike myself, simply shut up as a defence mechanism.