Yikes, I know you don't mean to come across this way but some people might interpret your comment as tone policing from a place of privilege

I'm not sure that really captures how it works. For a given individual, being blamed for something you didn't do, maybe even shunned for it, sucks regardless of the reason. I don't think it's productive to try the weigh one person's emotional hurt from being shunned against another's.

that's not what equivocate means; I think you mean equating

… i can’t think of a faster way to lose support from others.

Majority is the new marginalized minority it seems.

Don’t police others. It’s bossy.