I'd still generally prefer intrusive lists to be done via composition. I've seen plenty of intrusive lists where each item was a member of multiple lists at the same time - which is quite hard to do if you need to inherit from an intrusive list element superclass.
Ah, of course; templates and linking the full object.
Thanks for the update, my C++ is pretty rusty.
But it brings up another problem for me; when iterating a list like that, how do you know which of the links to follow? I get that you can do it manually step by step, but if you wanted to say write an iterator. Member pointers?