People are too obsessed with being "the best" at something, like most things in life skill is a bell-curve. And sure some genetic and environmental factors can be required to reach the very tail-end of that curve, but you don't have to.
The only parts of life that require that kind of skill is in a competitive scenario where only one person/team can win. Essentially in zero-sum games, for you to win someone else has to lose. Very few areas in life are really like that, and the ones that are are usually not worth pursuing.
Effort and perseverance can get you to 5% end of the bell curve just fine and that should be enough for most people in most areas of life.
> People are too obsessed with being "the best" at something, like most things in life skill is a bell-curve
Most of people have dreams that revolve around beating others. If you want your indie game to succeed you have to make a better game than 99% of indie developers. If you want to marry the prince you have to be more attractive (inside and/or outside) than most other people. Or even to solve a big world problem you have to be better at it than most others who tried.
Of course you can have a dream to get kids or to marry and live a regular life etc, but people like to also having these stretch dreams and imagining what it would take for them to reach there.
I think the big dream thing is overrated in terms of popularity. In some cultures it would be taboo to say you're not ambitious.
But most men i know want to marry a beautiful mid, make enough to support a family and watch football on the weekends. The grinders are just over represented in social media and media in general
The only parts of life that require that kind of skill is in a competitive scenario where only one person/team can win. Essentially in zero-sum games, for you to win someone else has to lose. Very few areas in life are really like that, and the ones that are are usually not worth pursuing.
Effort and perseverance can get you to 5% end of the bell curve just fine and that should be enough for most people in most areas of life.