And those books will be full of completely conflicting "science", large numbers of anecdotes, and almost entirely pointless.
Your child is different to any siblings, yourself, and any of the local children. People will swear blind "This is the sole way to make a child sleep", etc. At the end of the day things are so different that you need to find your own way.
Love your partner, don't drop the child on their heads, or let them fall when they're super-young and almost everything else will take care of itself.
(And when you're exhausted? The child will be safe in their cot. You can let them cry for ten minutes, alone, and it won't turn them into a serial-killer. Sometimes things are too much, and taking a step back to drink coffee, smoke on a balcony, or have a little cry is the right choice.)
It’s still valuable to have an overview of techniques or things that have worked for others. It’s fine to adapt to your unique situation (you are absolutely right on that) - but starting from scratch doesn’t sound great. And nobody does - friends, relatives, doctors - all give advice thet might or might not apply. Books fall in the same category.
Everybody advised us to let the baby “cry it out” to learn to fall asleep on his own. We never did because it didn’t feel right. And things did work out in the end :)
Your child is different to any siblings, yourself, and any of the local children. People will swear blind "This is the sole way to make a child sleep", etc. At the end of the day things are so different that you need to find your own way.
Love your partner, don't drop the child on their heads, or let them fall when they're super-young and almost everything else will take care of itself.
(And when you're exhausted? The child will be safe in their cot. You can let them cry for ten minutes, alone, and it won't turn them into a serial-killer. Sometimes things are too much, and taking a step back to drink coffee, smoke on a balcony, or have a little cry is the right choice.)